I recently relocated back to the city I grew up in and honestly I struggled with the transition. I was 1000% sure I was exactly where I was supposed to be ( physically ) but it’s like I was struggling to figure out what it looked like to be a newer version of myself in an old place.. crazy ? Felt like it. The last 2 years have definitely been challenging but also years of extreme growth and bringing that growth into a space that may or may not fit it felt uncomfortable to say the least. Ever had something or someone familiar feel unfamiliar all of a sudden ? Separately, there is a feeling of gratitude for all the normal reasons that I cannot go without mentioning and I try to remember that daily. However, to process the other unsettled feelings I had to bring awareness to the discomfort in order to move pass it. Here’s what I did and continue to do:
1. Reflecting at the start of every day: I get up an hour before my 6 year old so I can reflect on my thoughts in order to get it out of my head and look for patterns.The thing to remember is we create our own reality- it’s about perspective.So, I like to consider- how I feel in that moment ( especially since I probably haven’t had an interaction with anyone yet ) What am I looking forward to that day? What is going RIGHT? And what story am I telling myself about what is going wrong.
2. Stay connected… I can go 4 days without leaving the house and talking to anyone- besides my daughter. Some of you might read that and say- yep, so? LOL. I understand your reasoning because sometimes being in relationships is work. But it really is isolation; depending on the situation and if we are trying to avoid people, it could be a type of self sabotage. So I schedule time ( at least every 2 days ) to talk or see someone. I am a retired extrovert so I have to work hard at making myself socialize; if I don’t I know I will dwindle and attempt to do this all alone- super counterproductive.
3. I MAKE myself do something fun everyday. No, I’m not talking about going to an amusement park or arcade everyday- let’s lower our expectation of fun here, we’re in a pandemic. I mean watching a funny ass show ( currently Moesha ) or watching Tabitha Brown and her family take over the vegan world ( if you are not following her on FB, I’d highly recommend it ) or even trying a recipe that I saw Bobby Flay do that I absolutely massacre. It’s simply play without purpose.
4. Lastly, this I got from one of my favorite therapist ( I’ve had a few :) ), do something physical. For example, sometimes I’ll get up and start doing…