Work Life Balance ?!? Why are you so busy? From a Life Coach

One of the most uncomfortable things I can feel is unbusy. Is that even a thing? My schedule would typically jump from busy all day at work to busy all evening at home then, sleep. Repeat. There was something familiar about not stopping and going until I passed out at the end of the day. This was my norm for many years. Until COVID 19, which knocked all of us off our feet. And when school shut down but work didn’t shut down and I was in a city alone with a 6 year old… I had to make a decision. I was overwhelmed to say the least, anxious, overworked because I didn’t know how to set boundaries and I felt invisible. So, I had to decide if I was going to use this as an opportunity to do something different so that I could feel different. I kept thinking just make it work, Davina. But the more I tried the worse I felt. I was spiraling quickly and ultimately decided to walk away and try something different. That was step one of hundreds of micro steps I take still to this very day, to live a life with balance.

So how do you get there? How do you stop being busy enough to make changes in your life that will allow you to really experience it, instead of just existing? Well that’s a loaded question. I think it starts with asking ourselves why are we so busy in the first place? What are we actually doing with our time? Then we have to ask what is motivating us to stay busy? For me, I thought busy meant productive, progress and being a hard worker. Everyone around me was what?? Busy! Busy made me feel worthy “Look at me…I was getting all this stuff done, aren’t you impressed?”. Busy allowed very little time to think about what I was doing and what impact it was having on my family and myself. I just put my head down and stayed busy. But I was slowly dissolving as a human being.

Fast forward to now… I live at a much slower pace. I started a garden, I started dating and I even homeschooled my daughter for a year and survived!!! All things that require me to move with intentionality. Now, I only drink coffee when I need to instead of twice a day just because. I do yoga. I work with a therapist every 2 weeks. I’ve completely changed my lifestyle. But I am a work in progress. I still have to make myself sit down and stop overthinking about what’s coming next. I still have to take a sleeping pill from time to…